To Whom This Concerns,
Yes. They will show you who they are so all you have to do is pay attention with your two little beautiful eyeballs.
Pay attention.
In the beginning, we are all at our best behavior or most commonly known as the “Honeymoon Period”. But after the allure of the new relationship begins to wear off, and our true colors start to show. The Honeymoon Period can’t last forever and is tiring. We are trying to be the best version of ourselves that we think the other person wants to see while dealing the dopamine and lust high of the situation. But this does end and we show our true selves. You will see who they really are.
Believe them! They will show you over and over again. Don’t second guess it. This is who they are and most people fight change especially personal change. We all know those people that have been in long term relationships with those that they should have let go of in week one. Now they have been dating for a year and they are miserable.
Life is too short to let these people waste so much of our time. Let this be a gift to you. You are seeing things wrong before you invest time, money and mental resources into a relationship that was doomed from the start. You are dodging a bullet. Be grateful. Worst thing you can do is get emotional about it. Emotions are one of the ways we react to things right? When we are deep in our feelings, we make poor decisions. We say things like “Oh this relationship was bad, I’m just not going to trust anyone and I’ll die alone” or “Everyone thinks I’m ugly. I’m stupid for trusting anyone.” Both are not based in facts and purely on feelings.
We need to self advocate for ourselves in the beginning of relationships and search for signs which can be difficult because we become intoxicated by lust and attention. We must go in with realistic boundaries for ourselves as well as the parties involved or someone will be hurt when things don’t work out.
Sincerely, Benny